In the words of my mother, "Sometimes you have to break peace in order to find peace". In other words, we have to break the allusion of peace that we really don't have. We have to stop pretending that everything is well when it’s really not. It may cause some tension and it may ruffle some feathers but sometimes you have to break the allusion of peace in order to find true peace.
In order to keep the allusion of peace we pretend to be happy with ourselves and others when we are not. So why do we pretend to be happy when we are not? We pretend because we want to avoid conflict at all cost. We want to avoid letting other people down. We don't want to admit that we are not always what other people expect us to be. So we silence the way we really feel and we don't speak up when we know we should. We lie by omission. But the cost is great. We try to keep everyone else happy at the cost of our well being. We try to keep people happy that no matter what we do will never be happy with us. We rob our own happiness to make someone else feel better. But why continue? Because if we really examine those toxic relationships we would understand that the person we try to keep is not with us anyway. Peace between two people is an agreement, a compromise of both parties not one imposing their will on the other. The allusion of peace is one of the greatest crimes one could ever commit against their soul. It's all an act of simply going through the motions. Why continue to go through the motions, is that really a way to live a life? It leads to resentment. It leads to bitterness. It leads to wasted time that you can never get back.
Today I encourage you to have the strength to break the allusion of peace in order to find the love of real peace. It may cost you some relationships, some people may be disappointed in you but you shouldn't have to abandon yourself to be with someone. Life is beautiful when you stop pretending to have something that you really don't. Life is beautiful when you are free from the expectations of others and you embrace the expectations of God. In the words of my mother, "Sometimes you have to break peace in order to find peace".
These words of encouragement were inspired by my beautiful mother. I love you!!!
Written by: Deaushay Watts
